Rules of dating in your mid 20’s
You’ll realize real quick what you’re a fan of and what your not.
For example:
1. Your number one goal is to find out what someone’s intentions are ( do they want to date you, hang out with you as a friend or do they want to hook up?).
2. If someone isn’t as equally affectionate as you, that might be an indicator to how they are in relationships or what they lack…
3. People tell you who they are right when you meet them (in a joking manner or not) but are you listening?
4. Your patience runs thin for those who are unclear, unmotivated, and who ultimately don’t choose you. There will be others, so for now choose you! Never stay with someone because you feel like you won’t find better. There’s always better.
5. You also realize who you are and what you need/value in a relationship; Which can be translated into the 5 love languages
6. Sometimes it really is better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t make you feel like you’re on cloud 9.
7. Sometimes you are the problem. You gotta shift the way you think, feel and sort it all out. Once you figure it out you won’t ever go back to what was. Use your actions and the actions of others to shape you for the better!
8. Get. Out. Of. Toxic. Ass. Relationships! Take whatever you have left and leave.
9. Cherrish your family while you still can, you may not want to hear what they say half the time but they can see what you cannot when your blinders are on.
10. Last but not least, love yourself. Because no one will love you and give you exactly what you need when you need it except for you. Accept nothing less, don’t settle, and be better than you were yesterday.
Xo, SableEllen
Tag: reminder
Learning to love in a healthy way. One that’s not rooted in neediness or emptiness or manipulation. We are taught that love has to have conditions. I’m realizing love isn’t about conditions, it’s about boundaries. That there are different ways to love a person fully but still recognize that their inability to accept my love means i have to have parameters for that love. I can love someone and pray for them, and have no communication with them. I can love a person and be kind to them, while understanding they cannot love me back like i love them, and create that boundary to prevent myself from getting too close to that person because not everyone is privileged to have that kind of Intimacy with me.
my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.
when your mouth is closed and your teeth are touching or held tightly together, you are unnecessarily straining muscles out of stress. the healthiest way to hold your jaw is slightly apart, where it is relaxed. THIS HELPS WITH HEADACHES
I unclenched my jaw upon reading this.